We've had a manic existence lately, fitting in seeing friends and family on weekends, mid week visits, and basically any fleeting moments available to make sure we do the rounds of everyone that we love before our leaving date in January.
There's something about when people come to visit you, in particular that highlights all of the good things about your life. When people compliment you on your home, when they love the place that you live, when you put aside the to do lists for the weekend and concentrate on just enjoying yourself, it reminds you of how good you have it. We live in a beautiful house that feels like our first real home, we love living by the sea and our chosen town of Worthing, and we are incredibly lucky to have a huge number of friends and family as a support network, whether near or far.
And yet we're choosing to leave. Which for many raises questions. Why leave such a good thing? Isn't friends, family, and living somewhere you like what it's all about?
And of course, it is. But for us, we're not quite ready for this option to be us, all set, for the next 40 years. We have this feeling that there's more out there, but if the worst case scenario is that we come back to this life, how bloody brilliant is that? So, we're making these decisions when life is good. As we've said many times - running to something, not running away from it.
And yet, in the hundreds of interviews I conduct with entrepreneurs; and the many conversations I have with people aspiring to be entrepreneurs, this is precisely when they stay put. Risks are taken when they're midst the 'fear'. Businesses are started on the back of redundancy, personal or family illness, or the realisation that going back to work after having children is untenable in comparison to the cost of childcare. Great ideas come out of these desperate scenarios, but I can't help thinking that it's sad that we leave these things until we have no choice.
Wouldn't we do things differently if we led life by constantly challenging ourselves to be our happiest? By questioning if there is something else out there that might just be better? But doing it with the security of not being at the point where we just want to sprint in the opposite direction of our current lives?
My dad has given me the same great piece of advice at numerous junctures in my career. To never move jobs when you're at the moment of feeling desperate, of taking anything because it's perceived as being better than the scenario you're in (along with the gem of never moving purely for money). Hardwired into this advice is the behaviour of constantly assessing where you're at, of thinking of where you want to get to, and righting the path if it's not quite headed where you'd like to be. It takes being very aware of what makes you happy, and an objectiveness about your own scenario, but it's a great way to live. Raising your head above the parapet to look at your own life is the only way for 20 years to pass by and not wonder where the hell they went.
So, without by any means meaning to sound patronising, I urge you today, even if your life seems settled, happy, and the perfect definition of the modern existence...why not try something new? Something that puts you out of your comfort zone? Something that perhaps isn't on the path you seem to be destined for, but might just open your eyes to something new? And not to wait until you hate your current path until you try a new one...